Tuesday, October 30, 2012

4S Ranch Stooges
Written by Ray Shay

Leaving Del Sur, I saw dust rising into the air around the new construction site by Del Norte High School. Since it was Sunday, I was surprised to see the Community Hub Mole on his Vespa scooter spinning his rear wheel in the dirt lot. I honked my horn as I pulled up. I noticed his scooter was yet again, dirty. Very un-mole like.

The Mole accelerated towards me before breaking suddenly and causing a cloud of dry, fine dust to envelope both of us. He pushed his dust covered goggles up on his forehead as he blurted out, "You's guys are a bunch of stooges".

I responded, "Mole, first of all, you drive me crazy when you
use the word, "you's". There is no such word in the dictionary.   "Regardless boss, call yourselves whatever you want, but you are an easy mark for the County of San Diego, or anyone else".

What the heck do you mean mole? He then threw me the spare helmet he carries with him, (in case he spots a single, female mole) as he said, "Let's go for a ride". As I climbed on the back of his scooter, I realized I had never seen the mole so upset. As he turned the throttle on his scooter with his right hand, he pointed across the new Kindergarten through 8th grade school which is being constructed next to a very large retail center.

Mole yelled out through the cloud of dust, "Who talks for you's guys? Land is being built upon all around you and you say nothing. Your law enforcement levels have been slashed and you just keep giving cash to the County of San Diego each month. 4S Ranch and Del Sur residents should wake up and smell the proverbial coffee".

I tried to defend all of us that live here as I told the mole we had complained to the County Board of Supervisors and Sheriff Bill Gore over the last few months and they are finally going to be returning to conducting their, "line-ups" at the 4S Ranch Substation and plan to reassign one Sergeant to the area.  I told Mole, "It's a start". Mole responded, "Right boss, in 2008, 4S Ranch had a Lt., multiple sergeants and a full staff operating out of the substation, (which we paid for) and now your happy"?

 He went on, "4S Ranch is the County of San Diego's ATM. You provide cash 24/7 to the County and you never complain or speak up. When I lived in Pacific Beach at least there was a Town Council.
  
Who in the world speaks for the residents of 4S Ranch? The HOA? A few property owners? Is it the Ralph family?  I know the County representatives do not even know who to call to determine what the priorities are for your area. Boss you's guys gotta fix it"!

As I held on to the Mole's chubby waist as we drove around,  I realized he was telling the truth. A pretty astute observation, for a guy that never attended school and spent most of his life underground.  We then stopped near LA Fitness and he asked me what was being built at the corner of RB Road and Dove Canyon Rd.  I told him I had no idea. The mole pointed out as a community we should know. He said, "There should not be any surprises. You should have a voice in what is built. Should it be an In and Out Burger, gas station, (some compettition for chevron would be nice) or a tattoo parlor?

As he concluded the tour, I stepped off the Mole's Vespa in front of the Community Hub, I promised him we would work on helping our area residents to help control our own destiny.   I know in my last profession we established a Community Advisory Board that representeed all economic levels.  It was a wide variety of residents and even included a high school student. It was amazing.  She  had some of the best insight to we needed to focus on.   We had a great deal less resources, but we had a  very clear idea of what was important to the community and what we should be spenidng our limited resources on.   

It was a community voice.  Not one or two people or someone who might own a piece of land here or there. When voices are combined you get a better future and a community voice our elected officials can hear more clearly.   

In fact, on November 1st at twelve noon, we are having a meeting at the Community Hub at 10550 Craftsman Way Suite #184 (Next to Brett's Barbecue) which everyone is invited to attend. We will have high ranking officials from both SDSO and SDPD as well as a representative of the County of San Diego.  It is hoped we can address some of the issues that the Community Hub Mole brought up on my tour of the area.

If you would like to attend please RSVP at  (858) 449-7355.  The RSVP is not required it just helps us identify how many people will be attending.  We will not close the door to anyone.

As the Mole drove off, I yelled to him that we would clean up our act, if he would do the same and clean his scooter up! It was a mess.  

Enjoy your week! 

     

  Ray and Theresa Shay


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Saturday, October 27, 2012

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Home inventory continues to slip as more and more buyers are looking to purchase homes.  Appraisals continue to be an issue with the market heating up.  If you want to know the value of your home, or are interested in purchasing a home, give us a call.  We are here to help!  

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Thursday, October 25, 2012

HBO Sports and Ben Franklin
Written by Ray Shay

 
On Friday afternoon we were putting up our, "Thank You Run" banners for our upcoming Thanksgiving morning walk/run in 4S Ranch, when I got a call from Theresa. I could tell she was pleased when she said, "HBO Sports in New York just called and they are going to sponsor the run again"!    

As I congratulated her, my first thoughts were of her mom, who passed away from ALS, (Lou Gehrig's disease) just a few years ago.  Helen would be so pleased to hear HBO Sports was stepping up, for the third consecutive year. I can't say enough good things about HBO Sports as well as our other many generous, walk/run sponsors.
   
  I then thought about Ben Franklin and Karl Strauss. Both very smart people and both beer drinkers. I am not sure if it is due to the beer, but since announcing there will be a free Karl Strauss post race beer garden following the 10K, 5K and kids walk/run, registrations have jumped up dramatically.  We will likely sell out the event before Thanksgiving Day!  Be sure to get you and/or your family Registered today at  (www.thankyourun.org).
   
It makes us think about how many more victims of ALS and other community programs we can help.  I know I can't please everyone, but if only Ben and Karl could come to the park on Thursday, November 22nd. (See 5K course video). I think that would make everyone believers.  Believers that families being together, physical fitness, and a cold beer can be a good thing.  It seems there are few non beer drinkers out there who do not like the idea... 

Saturday, October 20, 2012

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Friday, October 19, 2012

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Home prices were at a four year high this past week and there is no indication yet that the trend will continue. If you are thinking about buying or selling, give us a call.  We are #1 in Home Sales for REMAX Ranch and Beach.

Home inventory continues to slip as more and more buyers are looking to purchase homes.  Appraisals continue to be an issue with the market heating up.  If you want to know the value of your home, or are interested in purchasing a home, give us a call.  We are here to help!  

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Tuesday, October 16, 2012

Peyton Manning's Code 11
Written by Ray Shay

CAUTION - The following story is for mature readers.  It is a break from my usual shorter stories and the subject matter reflects similarities to a screenplay/book I have been working on with a law enforcement theme.  For my regular readers, I found that horse I let go mid-stream a few weeks ago .....
 
One of my favorite times in our home is when Theresa hollers from our kid's bedrooms, "Come say goodnight to the boys".  I frequently use a line like, "Bring this old tugboat to shore" as I hug and wrestle with each of our three sons, Troy, Raymond, and Ryan.  I usually take my time, but tonight was different. Tonight, I rushed.  I skipped the tugboat line, gave them each a hug, ran my fingers through their hair and gave them each a quick kiss good night, before sprinting back to the family room.  OK, it really was not a sprint.  I walked pretty fast to return to watch one particular player on Monday Night Football.  That player was Peyton Manning.

Don't get the wrong idea. San Diego Chargers quarterback Phillip Rivers is a great quarterback and I will always be a loyal Chargers fan.  My problem is I have always noticed something very special about Peyton Manning.  As I sat back down on our couch, I finally figured it out.  Peyton would make a great Special Weapons and Tactics Sergeant. 

If you do not believe me, watch him tonight. Three hundred pound plus men are facing off at a distance of about three feet, wanting nothing more than to crush their opponent's  skull.  If a teammate flinches, runs the wrong route, misses a block, or commits  a foul, everyone on the team looses. Sound? A National Football League player can barely hear themselves think, with seventy thousand people plus screaming.  

As Peyton stands over center the three neck surgeries and growing wrinkles around his bright blue eyes are battle wounds of both time and experience.  He looks his adversaries directly in the eyes, as he drinks in an amazing amount of information.  Peyton is picking up coverages, blitz packages, and looking for the small indicators like the shifting of an opponents weight, or the tilt of their helmet indicating their intended plan of attack.  With every second counting, Peyton is the master of the clock. Like all great SWAT or Military Leaders, the more challenging the circumstances, the calmer, and even more precise he becomes. I love that. 
As I dozed on the couch, I began thinking about Peyton Manning and Phillip Rivers facing off on Monday Night Football this evening.  My eyes closed for just a moment, when I suddenly heard the ominous high pitched beeping sound of the San Diego Police Department's Citywide Emergency Alert Signal. Following the customary, two to three beeps, The SDPD dispatcher announced in a calm, clear voice, "Code 11, Code 11,  SWAT personnel respond code three". The dispatcher added, "Shots fired, officer down. Multiple armed suspects have forced their way into a private residence and have taken hostages.  This has been upgraded to a code 12. Units respond code three and stay off the air". 

I was momentarily confused when I looked at my television screen and saw both Charger and Bronco players lining up.  Peyton was directly behind center as he looked to his left and then his right.  As he began barking out signals, the screen image suddenly split down the middle.  On the left side, I could see a dilapidated home with red and blue lights bouncing off the worn, brown colored stucco concrete, and countless torn window screens. I heard someone screaming and glass breaking.  I grabbed my TV remote to figure out what in the world was going on.

As I moved my remote, different players on the field illuminated and the written message appeared on the television screen, "Assign player tactical role in SWAT operation?" I continued hearing the screaming.  When Peyton Manning's figure illuminated on the screen.  I didn't hesitate.  I pushed the, "Enter" button. The game suddenly stopped, as a bizarre hush enveloped San Diego's, Qualcomm Stadium.  

I then saw Peyton's Manning's orange Denver Bronco's football helmet morph into a muted black level three ballistic helmet as his face mask was replaced with clear Oakley Goggles to protect his eyes and a black, flame resistant, balaclava hood seemed to melt from his helmet and cover his face and neck. His bright orange and white, Bronco football uniform transformed into a black tactical San Diego Police Department, Special Weapons and Tactics Uniform. Peyton's black boots were not shiny and new as he was accustomed.  They were purposely dulled to mute the reflection of any light that may place him, his team, or a hostage in danger.   Peyton was about to face the biggest challenge of his life. 

As Peyton stepped out from under center, he looked at his two freshly glove covered hands. He reached down and tugged on the bottom right corner of his newly issued tactical body armor.   Peyton felt the unusual tightness and the intense heat his body was generating being uncomfortably trapped under the multiple panels of Kevlar protective fabric.  Body armor not designed to soften a blow from a helmet or shoulder pad, but instead to tangle up and hopefully stop a few hot pieces of jagged, hot metal, traveling extremely fast, and spinning relentlessly to fulfill their prescribed duty to severe any artery which provides oxygen to his precious brain.  Peyton realized he was no longer in a game.

Patrol car

Peyton looked around as the additional tools of his new trade were being systematically attached to his body while the game was being broadcast on national television.   A fully automatic MP5 9MM close combat style machine gun rifle with extendable stock, Sure Fire pressure switch activated high intensity light, silencer, Aim Point sites, a 45 caliber Glock, semi-automatic handgun on his right hip, gas mask, flash bangs, smoke grenades, and the so vitally important, tactical communication gear including, "whisper" microphone technology.  Next to his brain, one of the most important tactical tools needed to survive a combat operation.  

I watched the television screen as the left side continued to enlarge and the football game began to disappear.  I knew I had to act quickly and follow my gut, something SDPD Captain, John Madigan taught me so many years ago.  I pointed my TV remote and kept hitting, "enter" as quickly as possible.  I selected the best tactical team members from each team and the sidelines.  
   
Soon the game was no longer on the screen. It was now the imperfect and often unfair world of real life. I could see all the former football stars and hardworking rookies standing around in the blocked off, pitted, black roadway, in the type of neighborhood where several of the professional football players had fought their way out of.  The tougher side of town where desperate moms and dads searched relentlessly to put some decent food on the kitchen table,  Where on very special occasions, the family meal would include fresh fruit and vegetables for their beautiful children to eat.  

Several of the football players were looking at each other as their automatic weapons hung loosely on dark green tactical slings across their chests. I had to laugh. Several of them looked like they were saying, "What the &!;?". I saw Charger tight end, Leslie O'Neil carrying around about a fifty pound metal door knocker.  It looked like a toothpick in his over sized and legendary, Pro Bowl, 'soft hands".  From our couch, I began to hope I would get to see him signaled up to the entry point.  I know Leslie would move quietly, smoothly, and in one amazing swing, obliterate the door from it's hinges.

The Incident Commander quickly explained, Alex Spanos, a local shopkeeper, was being held hostage in the home.  Alex a regular working stiff, stopped by his home to change clothes between jobs when several heavily armed men kicked in his front door. They obviously thought they were taking down a drug house which is located around the corner.  Uniformed officers responded and were met with a high volume of gunfire.  An SDPD officer was shot and subsequently rescued by Primary Response Team Officers.  The wounded officers red and blue emergency lights were still turning like silent lighthouses letting both good and evil people know that law enforcement officers were taking a stand and they were not going to leave without Alex.

As each SWAT Officer arrived they knew this rapidly changing equation was their problem to solve.  After you call SWAT, there is honestly no one else you can call.  It is the end of the line.  One of the suspects sensing he had a loosing hand and obviously, "strung out on dope" threatened to set a time limit for a van to be delivered in front of the home or he was going to shoot the hostage. This is commonly referred to as a, "countdown".   A countdown, or when a hostage taker places a hood over a hostage are both very bad signs.  It means all the chips are being pushed out to the center of the table and for better or worse, the crisis was likely be coming to an end.
      
Peyton and Phillip both looked at each other. Phillip was ready to start planning the Operation or, "Op" in SWAT talk, but out of respect to his senior NFL Player, he paused and looked at Peyton Manning.  Peyton looked over at the home as the red and blue lights continued reflecting an area of town the community should have got involved with and cleaned up a long time ago.  Peyton looked at the battle worn faces of all the men from both teams.  The  men who moments earlier were fervent adversaries.  Peyton Manning simply said, "Bring it in".   

Peyton then selected Phillip Rivers to be Entry Team Leader.  He knew he needed Phillip's size, speed, and personality to take on the critical job of entering the home and rescuing Alex.  When Phillip heard his pivotal role in the operation, he got that good old boy, broad grin on his face.  Like all great leaders, he wanted the pressure and the responsibility.  He quickly moved among both teams selecting men for the Entry Team.  Predictably, he picked his kicker, Nate Keading as the explosives expert.  Anyone who can handle the pressure of kicking a small leather football between two metal poles from about fifty yards away as time expires, can obviously handle high explosives.  

Phillip noticed two SWAT Officers who had special dark blue San Diego Fire Department patches on their uniforms.  They were walking away from a San Diego Fire Department Paramedic Unit as they hoisted large black packs on to their backs.  As they got closer, he noticed neither of them had a single handgun, flashbang grenade, or rifle.  Phillip appeared surprised when he further noticed one was a tall, female.  He  hesitantly asked, "Who are you guys"? The female STAR Paramedic turned towards him and said with just a hint of disdain, "Well, I'm definitely not one of your cheerleaders".  

After momentarily enjoying the surprised look on Phillips face she explained, "Our job is to keep you and your fellow officers alive. We're towards the back of the entry stick and if you or the suspect get shot, stabbed, or blown up, we reach into these backpacks and do everything we can to keep you or the suspect alive".   Phillip recognized immediately both paramedics were very capable.  As they moved to the rally point, he kept thinking how brave they must be since they were going into a potential fire fight and they had no weapons.  He realized their safety was another responsibility being placed on his shoulders. He was glad to have them.

I then saw Charger Head Coach, Norv Turner carrying a thirty seven millimeter gas gun as he walked towards the group. I did not recall selecting him, but I know I was rushing and I do like the guy.  Norv actually looked small and frail compared to the men around him. That was despite having about twenty additional silver colored 37 MM CS liquid gas projectile rounds secured in the Tactical Gas Vest he was wearing.  I could not help but imagine Norv experiencing the long trigger pull and hearing the, "pop" and "wush" as the gas projectiles left his gun before piercing a window or wall and releasing their very effective payload of liquid chemical agents.
 
I have no doubt Norv's ruddy complexion would turn even more red and probably sting due to the microscopic CS gas particles adhering to the hot sweat around his face, neck, and of course other places where CS particles seem to pursue the dampness.  I also know under the gas mask, Norv would probably be smiling bigger then the Joker in the latest Batman movie.  Norv, finally getting to be part of the execution of a plan. The best part is, Norm would not have to face the press in any post mission press conferences.  That responsibility would be up to the SWAT Commanding Officer Dean Spanos, and SDPD Chief of Police, William Lansdowne.  

When selecting a React Team, Peyton made a great decision.  React is usually called into the "Op" when things go very bad, like the Entry Team meets a problem they can't overcome, or a SWAT Officer or team member is bleeding out somewhere and they need to be rescued.  Peyton picked the mountain of men from both teams that frequently have the biggest hearts of gold, lineman.  The warriors in the trenches who often do not get the big money, the celebrity status. or the hottest women.   Those perks are normally reserved for running backs and quarterbacks.  As I said earlier, life is not fair.   But if you really need men that will shoulder the burden, perform and execute an order, lineman is who you would want to call.  Entry, Perimeter, PRT, Snipers, and Gas Team Leaders nodded towards the React Team with a sense of appreciation and respect.  Every cop wants good back-up.

As the teams deployed to their positions they heard glass break once again as one of the armed suspects brought Alex to the front window. The countdown had begun. Emergency Negotiation Team liaison advised via Command Frequency the armed suspects were demanding a van to be delivered in front of the home within two minutes.  Without saying a word, every SWAT Officer knew there was no van coming.  This problem would not be allowed to go mobile.  The football players in each of them also realized they could not call a, "time-out".  
   
As the seconds clicked down, the pressure was felt by everyone. Heavily armed SWAT officers preparing to confront their armed opponents and thoughts of the approaching gun battle. Tap ups, and touches very similar to a goal line stand with time running out.  Each man thinking about his role in the upcoming battle.

The screams of the lead suspect as he stood with a gun to Alex echoed through the tense, damp, San Diego air.  All radio chatter stopped. Fingers rubbing along the top of trigger guards as Nate Keading stepped softly down the side of the home. His hands deftly holding the high explosive det cord backed by a water charge as he attached it to the rear of the home.  Nate re-ran the math calculations through his head one last time reminding himself he had enough explosive charge to vaporize a clean rectangle cut on the side of the stucco home without over pressurizing the home and killing the entry team members, Alex, or his captors.

I could hear over the television, Peyton's calm and almost soft voice advising all units it would be a sniper initiated assault.  With only a few seconds left on the countdown he advised, ... stand by, stand by ..., sniper one you have control.  There was a brief pause and then the deep throaty sound of the 168 grain Tactical Response Unit bullet leaving the barrel of the 308 rifle as it spun towards it's target at about 2,800 feet per second.  The accompanying "sonic crack" and concussion caused by the incredible force of the copper bullet leaving the steel barrel was felt and heard by everyone.   

Phillip River's glanced at Nate, and his left thumb as it began to depress the detonator.  Phillip and the entry team momentarily closed their eyes to maintain their night vision as the side of the home erupted with a fury of flames as the pulverized concrete stucco, paint, nails, and old insulation showered them with debris. For a split second they paused recovering from the explosion and sonic wave, before leaning into their fears.
   
As time seemed to slow down they bravely faced the danger and entered the chaos of screaming, smoke, and critical decision making where there are no second chances. No do overs, and no red rags to be thrown on the pristine green grass of an NFL stadium. Their high intensity lights under the barrel of their entry weapons cut through the thick air and smoke looking desperately for both suspects and victims. The sudden bursts of gunfire sounded like toy caps exploding due to the adrenalin that raced though their veins.  Adrenalin that reduces audio sensitivity and focuses on keeping their own blood to vital organs such as their hearts, brains, eyes, and hands.

As the smoke settled and the call for additional paramedics was broadcast, SWAT turned the suspects and crime scene over to investigators and uniformed police officers.   The Broncos and Chargers walked out of the home the same way they went in. One team. There was no cheering crowds for their heroics. No highlights to be repeatedly shown on ESPN. In years to come, this evening would only be talked about in private conversations in darkened bars or backyards when family and children were not within earshot.

They were fortunate. Every team member had made it out and a few of them even got, "the gift". "The gift" is something that cops frequently do not get to see.  But when you do, you never forget it.  It was when Alex, who could barely hear and was covered with dust, insulation, and smelled like sweat and gun powder, was turned over to the uniformed SDPD Officers.    Peyton, Phillip and a few other team members saw the eyes of Alex's children's as they rushed to their father.  As Alex rubbed one of heir heads with his heavy calloused hands he looked past his family into the eyes of each of the SWAT Officers.   In his native language he said something. The language did not need to be understood.   It did not have to be said. Everyone could see both his and his families eyes. It was the deepest and most sincerest thanks any of the NFL players had ever experienced.

As the former adversaries began removing their police equipment they felt they had changed in some way. They were maybe a bit more humble and  thankful for what God and their hard work had provided them. Several of them, former World Champions, now realized how challenging and difficult a real Special Weapon and Tactics operation really is and how fortunate they were to have law enforcement officers across this great country, ready to risk everything for them and their families.  I heard one of them softly say, "winning a game never felt like this".

The sound of a commercial for the, "clapper" suddenly woke me up. I immediately thought, "I think I could use one of those".  The sound of clapping also reminded me that in tonight's Monday Night Football game when the Chargers lineman with their hearts of gold, sack one of my favorite players, I hope they slip Peyton the following URL.  It is SDPD recruiting.  I know they are hiring and I'll put in a good word for him.  He would be a great cop.  


Enjoy your week and Go Chargers!


Ray and Theresa Shay

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Friday, October 12, 2012

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Home inventory continues to slip as more and more buyers are looking to purchase homes.  Appraisals continue to be an issue with the market heating up.  If you want to know the value of your home, or are interested in purchasing a home, give us a call.  We are here to help!  

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Wednesday, October 10, 2012

Drop Back Dad
Written by Ray Shay

I was warned. The warning came from both family members as well as friends. The warning was meant with the best of intentions. They all warned us our oldest son, Troy who recently became a teenager was had crossed that thirteenth birthday milestone where everything supposedly changes. Though I have dreamed about stopping time and enjoying what we have right now, I admit I enjoy seeing him and all of our children change. Over just the last year or so, I have seen lots of changes in Troy.  

Troy is texting more and he is a bit overly interested in Instagram, which makes me wonder just a little, why we allowed him to get it.  But he is getting great grades and continues to do well in other areas of his life. He also continues to be a good role model for his two little bothers, Raymond and Ryan. But between youth athletics, school, and our ever changing social media demands, he has allot on his plate. I could see how a few of his responsibilities might fall off like yellow kernels of corn and land silently on the table.  

When his face was again buried in his I-phone this past week as he sent Instagrams and texts, I told him what my dad said to us seven kids frequently, "In life you will find your true friends can be counted on two hands or less".  All our boys laughed, and looked at me like I was crazy, just like when my dad told me.   It's a tough concept to grasp when your a teenager.  As they explained to me, "Dad do you know how many followers we have, how many likes I just got on a picture I posted? I told them they all probably have a heck of allot of friends. They smiled.

I then said the term, "followers" is pretty interesting. I tried to explain there are allot of people out there in this world who are, "followers", but not many who will stand by you and fight shoulder to shoulder when storm clouds gather and your seas turn rough.   Many of the people you had thought were your friends will turn their back, flee, or pretend your ship is not taking on water.   It is when you can tell the difference between true friends from followers.  I went back to my analogy I have discussed before, that there is just not as many "long ball hitters" in this life as you wish there were.  
    
Back to the point at hand. As I was walking last week with Troy across Del Norte High School campus approaching the stadium, he whispered or said kind of softly from the corner of his mouth, "drop back dad". I looked at him cross eyed as we both continued walking.  He repeated it again and discreetly waived with his right hand trying to signal me to drop back like he was a football corner back and I was the free safety.

I started to laugh as he nodded towards a group of girls who were in a group about 25 yards away. He then did the whisper out of the corner of his mouth again, "Dad, I know those girls and they are about to see us". I think I was the part of, "us" which was being identified as the problem. Then the flutter of his right hand again indicating he wanted me to drop back.   I started laughing out loud. This is what I had been warned about. The teenager in our son had arrived.

Troy finally gave up getting me to fall back and as we got closer, I was mischievous.  I put my left arm around his shoulder, pulled him close as I rubbed my fingers through his thick, beautiful hair and hollered out nice and loud so no one could miss it, including the girls, "Troy you are a great son".  Troy could not help but laugh before pulling away and jogging over to chat with his friends or followers.  Only time will tell.  
    
On the ride home after his basketball practice, I explained toTroy his mom and I as well as his entire family on both sides, would always be alongside him on his ship, regardless of how stormy the seas.  As part of that, despite him getting older we will not, "fall back".  He will always be giving him hugs regardless of his age, his challenges,or people that may be watching. 
Any kids that tease him are likely kids that wished in a small way their parents did the same.  




Enjoy your week!




Ray and Theresa Shay

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Tuesday, October 2, 2012

Did You See The Truck?
Written by Ray Shay


  
I was probably sleeping when that darn truck rolled out of our community in 2008. I didn't think I had to wake up, since the truck was being driven by the Sheriff's Department.  If I had seen it leaving, I think I would have noticed the big multi-colored rug lying in the bed of the truck.  In fact, the rug was so big, a third of the rug was hanging off the back tailgate. I suspect they followed all California Vehicle Code regulations and attached a red flag to it.  I'm sure they also followed all established internal procedures.  Even looking back, it may have seemed like a good idea at the time, but I can't help but feel they pulled the rug out from under our community.  

Some background information will probably help. In early 2000, I had a problem which was difficult to shake.   I kept wandering into all the different model homes for sale popping up at new housing tracts being built in and around 4S Ranch, (around 4000 homes).  If you were like Theresa and I, (with our three young boys) we saw one of the best school districts in the Country, (Poway), new schools, a master planned community with a strong HOA, a new Fire Station, and a new Sheriff Substation being built.  It looked awesome.   

The salesperson at the model home would then hand us the Mello Roos Tax Advisory Statement and explain it was to help pay for infrastructure which included, new schools, a Sheriff Substation, a Fire Station, etc.  We cringed at the additional tax, but rightfully convinced ourselves that for everything we were getting, it was well worth it.  We moved to 4S Ranch and paid the taxes.   

A few years later, SDSO opened a new Substation in 4S Ranch near Rancho Bernardo Rd and Camino Del Norte Rd. It opened with lots of fanfare and speeches.    We met the Patrol Deputies, Investigative staff, office staff, the Sergeants, and Lt. Mark Elvin.  All of them were great people.  The San Diego Sheriff's Department and our elected officials including County Supervisor, Pam Slater-Price, had kept their promise.   It seemed like a time to relax a bit, as we were safe on our streets and in our homes.  

Then something happened. The last year or so, I have heard more and more reports that we are not as safe as we once were. I found that in 2008, likely due to under reported crime statistics, political pressure, other needs, or our overall lack of being vigilant as a community, things changed. The Sheriff cut our staffing.  They moved the assigned Lieutenant position, the sergeants and other support staff out of 4S Ranch.  

You may be surprised to hear we currently have only a single Detective assigned to the substation, (40 hours a week) and only two patrol Deputies per shift are responsible for all of 4S Ranch, Rancho Santa Fe, and Crosby Estates. The Deputies actually change into their uniforms at the 4S Ranch Substation and then drive to the Poway Substation to attend briefing.

In effect, SDSO and our elected officials pulled the proverbial rug out from under all of us in 2008. It is now time to put it back. A few months ago we began corresponding with Lt. Scott Miller and Captain Bill Donahue of the Sheriffs Department.  Once again, incredible people and awesome public servants. They are attempting to get a Sergeant assigned to 4S Ranch for at least forty hours a week as well as some citizen volunteers.  A long shot from what we had prior to the exodus.  

The reality of the situation is the decision to return to our prior staffing levels is several pay grades above either the Lieutenant or the Captain.  It takes people to step up and make a phone call or send an email.  If every person who reads this weekly story makes a phone call today or emails, I suspect within two weeks, Captain Donahue would be introducing all of us to at least a new SDSO Sergeant assigned to our 4S Ranch community.  It would be a start.  

Sheriff Bill Gore and our elected County Board of Supervisor representative Pam Slater-Price, needs to return us to our staffing levels of 2008.  Our community has continued to grow and we are forty-one homes away from being completely sold out in 4S Ranch!

Please call or email our Third District Supervisor Pam Slater-Price below and say, "We want our Lieutenant back in 4S Ranch"!  It will only take a moment and it could lead them to at least giving us a throw rug back to build a community-law enforcement relationship again. We really need it.   If we don't get our rug back, be sure to use your power of the Vote!  
Third District Supervisor
Pam Slater-Price
 

Take a minute to call below or email
(619) 531-5533
(800) 852-7334
pam.slater@sdcounty.ca.gov  

Enjoy your week!
  


Ray and Theresa Shay

Ray & Theresa Shay  
  

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